As you know, I’ve been diving deep into the theme of “being seen.” I’ve noticed sometimes as I “see” others and witness their success and expansion, jealousy rears it’s head. It’s tough to admit, but it’s true!
So uncomfortable, that jealousy. It makes my heart and body feel terrible, and yes, I do feel like a green gremlin version of myself – small, tight, and mad.
Recently, rather than let myself stay jealous, I took a hard look at what was really going on. I saw that I’m jealous of colleagues who are doing something that, in my heart of hearts, I know I want to be doing, but am not. They are offering or expressing themselves in some way that I also have a longing for. What I understood was that my judgement was not of them, but rather of me, for not stepping out and showing myself and my longing! It seems simple when it’s all laid out, but isn’t that amazing??
These colleagues have shown me my own “golden shadow:” that place inside of me that longs to be seen, expressed, and out in the world, but is still hidden. What a gift!
Seeing your golden shadow is a wonderful way to become aware of your deepest longing. How do you want to express yourself? What creativity do you want to share with the world? What offering or work do you want to solidify and monetize?
When you get jealous, I offer you these four simple steps:
- Take a deep breath – Just notice your jealousy, don’t judge it
- Take a pause – Identify what you are feeling jealous about. Articulate it to yourself.
- Take some time – Write down your thoughts and feelings from the perspective of your golden shadow. Be honest with yourself about what part of your own genius is being shown to you by this other person.
- Take action – What is the next step you can take to express your full genius and creativity?
To being fully seen!